Despite the myth that doing something for 21 days in a row is all it takes to establish a new habit, according to scientific evidence, it can take anywhere from 18 days to 254 days to form a new habit; the average is 66 days. If there's a new habit you'd like to form in 2017, you're not alone. Most Americans usually make a New Year's resolution of some kind. New Year's resolutions tend to involve establishing new habits; the most common in 2016 were "Lose weight," "Get organized," "Spend less, save more," and "Enjoy life to the fullest."
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by Patrick Thean and the Rhythm Team
I was ecstatic when I learned that Rhythm Systems was being recognized as one of the best places to work in Charlotte. I would also love to congratulate all the other winners, including our long-time client, AvidXchange. Our team ranked 7th in the Charlotte Business Journal Best Places to Work Program this year! In my mind, this award has been a long time coming. When Patrick Thean and I started this company ten years ago, we made a conscious effort to make our workplace inviting and fun!
Imagine the circular conversation in your workplace. The movie you’ve seen before, where you know the outcome, and can predict that there will be no change. It’s likely the conversation happens in the hallway, the restroom, or after hours while having pizza. It’s the one where you conclude in the end that your company (or team) is just that way, no one would listen and it’s always been that way. Productive team members work around them, they’re known as just lazy, etc. It’s the déjà vu conversation that nothing ever changes – things just stay the same. I’ve had them and so have you.
You can imagine I was pleased as emcee for Rhythm Systems Breakthrough Conference to have Joseph Grenny, co-author of Crucial Conversations, confirmed as a speaker. I was giddy to have the chance to hear confirmation of what I learned from our earlier 2-day training on Crucial Conversations. I was expecting sort of a refresher on material I’d previously learned. Even so, deep inside, I was a bit sad for our attendees. They would only get what seemed to me like a small spoon at the ice cream shop, you know, the one that’s used for tasting only. They wouldn’t be filled, but I knew they’d like the flavor.
Aubrey Daniels is a clinical psychologist who has spent more than thirty years dedicated to helping people and organizations apply the scientifically proven laws of human behavior to improving workplace performance. I first heard him speak at a conference several years ago and remember his ideas as being the most insightful and practical of all the speakers.
Let’s face it - it is scary how bad some workplace experiences can be. The Wells Fargo scandal in the
news lately has reminded me of what it can feel like to work in a culture where you feel pressured to do things that are uncomfortable - or even illegal in their case. I don’t want to give away too much, but in honor of Halloween, I thought I would share one of my own personal workplace horror stories. Gather round the campfire while I tell you a tale...
Our team recently participated in a Covey training which involved taking a self-assessment to see how we were doing on each of the 7 Habits as pre-work. I am embarrassed to say that some of my scores really sucked, and the one that sucked the most was Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw. While I intellectually know that taking time for myself is what fuels my success in all the other areas of my life, it can be really hard to actually set this time aside.
As I have been reflecting on how I can improve in this area, I came across a habit that I used to do and have gotten away from with time - meditation. As I was doing a little research for myself on how to get back into this routine to sharpen my saw, I came across so many articles about famous executives who swear it has changed everything for them; the internet is crawling with stories about how meditation makes you a better leader, a better negotiator, a better marketer, a better partner, a better person…
Charlie is inconsolable. His uniform is missing from the locker and the school lost his sports physical so he has to sit out. As I pull into the front of the middle school, my puffy-eyed 7th grader is there alone waving meekly at me. I roll my window down as he tries to open the door.
“No, Charlie. You’re not getting in. Take me to your coach.”
Montages - movies are laced with them today. All of a sudden, a character decides in a very short period that they are going to change their circumstances, their relationships, or themselves. Think Rocky Balboa running up the steps at the Philadelphia Museum or Art or when Julia Roberts remakes herself in Pretty Woman.
We all know montages don't happen. Unlike montages, habits take time to break, and forming new ones is just as hard. In the movies, it is easy to stop bad habits and develop amazing new ones. Granted, a lot of times movie characters also have the best coaches pushing them to be their best.
I used to think I was busy, and then I had a baby and realized that I didn’t know the meaning of the word. Since starting daycare in January, my daughter has had seven ear infections, bronchitis, food sensitivities, a severe allergic reaction, and a constant runny nose - all resulting in more than 20 visits to the pediatrician and three different specialists, a trip to urgent care, an ER visit, and surgery to have tubes in her ears. And, for the most part, she’s a healthy, happy baby. One doctor told me that on average, their first year in school (whether in daycare or kindergarten), kids miss 100 days due to illness. So, we’re probably right on par with every other family out there. But, wow - I was not expecting to juggle work and so many sick days. I am thankful every day for the team that I work with and for our core values - I don’t know how working parents survive without coworkers who live and breathe “Family is a blessing."
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